Fatshion Friday: I Wear What I Want

I wear what I want.

Even if it scares me, even if people think I shouldn’t.

I wear what I want.

Yesterday, I went to FFF Week’s trunk show, and got to meet some lovely designers (and a baker), and I wore my new shirt from Feminine Funk. This is the one I picked up at Wednesday’s event, and spoke so cryptically about yesterday.

I cannot tell you how many compliments I received. I love this shirt to itty bitty pieces.

The kicker?

It’s a crop top.

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I never in a million years thought that I would do a crop top. It’s a look that I covet but never thought I would be able to pull off. But bolder looks, like hair and makeup, take confidence to pull it off. If you think sexy, you are. Words to live by. Now, I put a vest on with the outfit because I was worried about my love handles being out–a great option if, like me, you want to take baby steps towards such a bold statement. And as I walked the New York streets, as I walked around the trunk show, everyone loved the statement.

I wear what I want.

Including wearing my hair free and lavender lippy:

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My hair is much shorter than it was before and I love it so! The lip is a combo of bright blue lipstick and pink gloss.

Anyone can wear anything. It’s all about finding a look that speaks to you and makes you happy.

So, join me. And wear what you want. 🙂

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Fatshionista Vacation: I Got My Hair Done!

I am pretty lazy when it comes to my hair. Most of the time I’ll do a wash, deep condition, twist it up, pick it out.

I kept it in a high poof or a front poof, mostly because my hair was uneven.

Yep. Was. 🙂

I actually had some time on Friday to treat myself to something nice, so I made an appointment at Mirror Salon.

I had no idea that Carol’s Daughter had a salon in the back of the store, but now I do, and I will be going back!

So, before you settle into your service, you have a chat with the stylist about your hair and what goals you have for it. Do you want it to grow longer? Do you wish it were thicker? What do you love about your hair?

For me, I’d love for it to grow out, but my focus was dead ends and unevenness. With me having two different curl patterns in my head, wearing it out made for a challenge. The front of my hair has tight, coily curls, and the back of my hair is all loose curls. Now, y’all have seen me with my hair picked out, but y’all couldn’t see the back of it. I have the Fro Mullet.

Fierce in the front, wtf in the back? Yeah. Not sexy.

I told this to my stylist, Sandy, and she grinned a bit at my description. I don’t think she realized how bad the struggle was until she washed it. She sat me up and got a good look, and she seemed genuinely puzzled.

“What is going on back here?”

*giggle* “Yep, told you I had another curl pattern going on back there!”

She told me she’d probably would have to give it a considerable trim to even it out. While the back is probably always going to be longer than the front, the way she would cut it would make it look the same length all around, even if I picked it out completely.

That made me happy, because I would wear my hair out more if it didn’t look so odd in the back. So she got to work. I told her all about my upcoming Full Figured Fashion Week events, and to the Shop and Swap I would be attending Saturday.

“Ok, so I’ll do a rod set for you, and you’ll have definition throughout the weekend as you’re out doing your thing.”

Now, it was my turn to be skeptical. My hair never has done well with styles. Even when I relaxed, my hair would never hold a curl or do anything but hang there. As a natural girl, since my curl pattern varied so widely, I could really only do a couple of styles anyway.

“Don’t worry,” Sandy said. “I’ll show you how to keep it up.”

Ok then.

About an hour later, I had this:

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The part that I loved the most was that it looked as though I had baby dreads all over my head. The curls were all sproingy and happy, and I smelled so good! (Tui oil is the truth, y’all!) And Sandy gave me the good news that the Rosemary Mint Shampoo was coming back, and that just made my absolute day!

So, for upkeep I was to sleep in a satin bonnet and in the morning, take a wide toothed comb and lift the roots a bit. At my look of confusion, Sandy clarified: “Take the comb at the roots, but only comb about halfway through. This will give you lift at the crown, and still keep your definition on the ends.”

And as I sit and write this post up, my hair STILL looks amazing. I’ll probably pick it completely out tomorrow. She did an amazing job!

If you happen to be in NYC and want a great place to get your hair done, stop by! You’ll be glad you did!

Disclaimer: I paid for all services rendered, and was not compensated in any way for this review. They’re just so fabulous I had to share!

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New Goodies: April Curlbox Review

So, I have been expanding the different subscription boxes that I get. I’ve told y’all how much I love Julep before, and I thought…why not hair stuff? There’s got to be a box for that, right?

A quick Google search lead me to CurlBox. They didn’t have any subscriptions available at the time, but I joined their mailing list.

And the wait begun. Every time new subscriptions were up for grabs, I was at work and couldn’t take advantage (it normally opened at 3pm on Saturday…and would be gone in less than two hours.)

Finally, the scheduling gods intervened and I was able to sign up for my box!

And when I got my first box, I was not disappointed.

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What you see here is a box full of full sized Pantene products. The companies switch by month (I missed the Carol’s Daughter one by a month!), so you get to experience a wide range of products.

Here’s what’s in there: Argan Oil shine serum, Curls Mousse, Heat Protection Spray, KeraGloss Oil Mist, 2 Minute Moisture Mask, and Define My Curls Custard.

So far, I have tried all but the mousse and the heat protection spray, and I love them. The Define My Curls Custard really does give each curl definition and shine, and it doesn’t dry crunchy. The shine serum gave my afro puff shine, and the oil mist was very moisturizing. I left the 2 minute moisture mask on for longer than 2 minutes, and it was very nourishing. You could totally get away with 2 minutes for a wash and go.

In fact, I used all of the Pantene products for my birthday updo.

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All in all, totally worth the wait for the box and the $25 (includes shipping!) that I paid for it.

Can’t wait for the next one!

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Fatshion Friday: The Birthday Outfit!

Last Wednesday, I celebrated my 29th birthday. Since the weather was less than ideal that day (yay pouring rain!), I postponed my dinner to this week so we wouldn’t need a rowboat to get around.

I’m glad I did.

We went to City Island for dinner, to a really nice hibachi restaurant where I ate all of the seafood and gyoza I could hold.

Mmm. 🙂

And of course, I did it quite fashionably.

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I went with the Floral Print Scuba Dress from Eloquii. Now, I normally don’t do bodycon dresses, as I am still self conscious about my belly. But I decided to let that go. At the end of the day, my belly is there no matter what, so I’m gonna wear what makes me happy! 🙂 It’s very comfortable, and if you decide to do a shaper (I have a Spanx on here), you aren’t able to see it through the dress.

My shoes are from JustFab. They’re called Kacie, and can we talk about how sexy this shoe is? Cause, really. 4 1/2 inches, and they only started to get uncomfortable for me towards the end of the evening (I have a bad ankle, and me and spiked heels often don’t play nice…but I had to have this pair!)

And I still ended up carrying the Darby Smart clutch I made, because it’s so cute. It worked with the outfit after all! The cuff was overkill, though, so that will have to be for the next outfit.

My coat is from Old Navy. I didn’t really need it, as it wasn’t too cold, but it was a bit breezy so I’m glad I had it.

My hair is in a high puff with a few curls on the side…simple and quick, because I kept going round and round on what to do with it. Fun fact: if you manage to break your elastic, an old knee high stocking does the trick as well. My makeup is neutral since everything else was so colorful. I used the Stila Dare to Bare palette here, and Kitten lip glaze.

And there you have it! Still continuing to step outside this box of mine and fully enjoy the world of style out there.

Have a lovely weekend, y’all!

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Updates! And a Public Service Announcement

Hello my lovelies!

So, I didn’t intend on taking a break from writing while taking a break from the day job, but perhaps I needed to unplug just a little bit. I wanted to give y’all a quick update on the birthday things while I wait for my sunscreen to sink in.

PSA: please make sure if you’re using a chemical sunscreen (ahem, that stuff on the back of the bottle you can’t pronounce too well), that you give yourself 15-30 minutes for it to sink in so that it can do its thing. If it’s a mineral sunscreen (titanium dioxide or zinc oxide are the most common) as soon as it’s dry you can head out. Reapply every two hours if you’re sunbathing, swimming, etc. I don’t want you sunburned now that we actually have some sun!

Now that’s out the way: my birthday week’s been awesome! The day of was rained out but I was armed with wine and Netflix, Thursday I slept all day long (GLORIOUS!), and Friday I had dinner with a friend.

No, not THE dinner. It’s coming, though!

Today is gonna be spent buying new makeup brushes and crafting supplies. And I’ll be back in full swing Monday–I got some new subscription boxes and goodies I can’t wait to share with y’all.

And here: have a pic of me with day off makeup on (it’s rare, but it does happen!)

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It’s neutral because I had on blue and purple (and I was going lipstick shopping.)

Enjoy the rest of y’alls weekend, and I will see you Monday! 🙂

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Nourishing My Crowning Glory

I often get asked about what I put in my hair.

The answer to that question is as varied as this New York weather.

Seriously. Can you pick a season, Mother Nature? Please?

Ahem. Sorry.

Anyway.

Generally, what I put in my hair depends on the season and what style it happens to be in. Most of the time, I use Carol’s Daughter products (CD). I love the Black Vanilla line for my eternally thirsty hair, and the Rosemary Mint Shampoo (no link; it’s going away. 😦 )for my eternally flaky scalp.

Even though CD is available in Target these days, it’s still sometimes out of my way to go and pick it up. So, I like to mix it up and try other products when I need something new.

Ok, maybe it’s just because I love how many products are coming out for natural hair, and I want to try all of the things. Eh, tomato, tomahto.

A few faves:

Nene’s Secret: I found this randomly in a beauty supply store and fell in love with the CC (that’s Curly and Cute) Curl Creme. My hair was so soft and hydrated. Before I could try the whole line, it disappeared from the store. (Of course it did. -_-) I’ll probably have to order it online.

Optimum Care Amla Oil: I tried this after a coworker recommended it to me. I do love the hydration, but it doesn’t give me as much definition as Nene’s Secret does. Still, it smells lovely, and is normally available in your local drugstore.

As I Am: I am in LOVE with their DoubleButter Cream. I found this in the Walgreens when I went to get shampoo, and decided to give it a try. If you have desert dry hair, you are going to LOVE this.

Creme of Nature Argan Oil Line: So, this was the shampoo I purchased on the aforementioned Walgreens run. I tend to be wary of argan oil products, because of how unscented (as in, raw, 100% natural) argan oil smells. It smells like…feet. Yeah. I know. If you’re using argan oil that smells delicious, it ain’t 100% natural. Just an FYI. Now this has enough fragrance in it to keep me from thinking “ew” but not so much the benefits of the oil are drowned out. I have the Moisture and Shine Shampoo and picked up a packet of the Intensive Treatment (amazing!)

As far as care? I don’t wash my hair more than twice a week in the summer and once every two weeks in the winter.  I have dry hair and flaky scalp, and washing it all the time would make it worse. I use sulfate free shampoos when possible (not doing so makes my hair that much drier.) I always deep condition my hair, and do a leave in conditioner afterwards to keep it strong.

I braid or twist my hair up before bed (usually just 5-6 big braids) and tie up with a satin scarf.

I always use a leave in conditioning spray (try the Black Vanilla one from CD; for my DIY mavens, put leave in conditioner and water in an old spray bottle and shake. Works just as well.) before I comb it out. I put a moisturizing cream on the ends, and oil at the scalp. Rub through and pick it out. It seems like a lot, but it helps with detangling so you don’t lose as much hair when you comb.

All of this work leads me to some good hair days. Look! I have my hair completely out!

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I’m still trying to push my limits. I’m considering wearing my hair free for my birthday dinner next week. What do y’all think? I’m taking style suggestions and product recommendations!

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My Hair: A History

I have a love/hate relationship with my hair. I’ve always had a lot of it, and never could really be bothered with it the majority of the time. Mostly it was because I had no clue what in the world to do with it.

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This is me as a peanut. About 4, I think.

My mother and grandmother always kept it in braids and bows (twin beads and barrettes, anyone?)

When I got older, around 9-10 maybe, I decided I wanted to get a relaxer. I was tired of my mother burning my head with the hot comb to straighten it. After a warning of it would burn my scalp the first time, I then had it relaxed. It didn’t slow down on me being tenderheaded, but it helped the tangles a bit.

I kept up the relaxers for years after. My hair went from long, to short, to very long when I still lived in Texas (almost the center of my back), to this:

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It’s maybe an inch past my shoulders here.

I rarely wore it down, because it was HOT. Oh, good grief. Like the hand of Hades was sitting on my neck and wouldn’t move! I kept it up in a bun or ponytail most of the time, only wearing it down when I got it done (see pic above) or on special occasions. And I could guarantee I had a ponytail holder to yank it up as soon as the special occasion was over with. Typically, you’d see me like this:

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Yep. Typical. It’s in a bun here.

I got tired of never being able to wear it down (it did not hold a curl at all, and frizzed at the drop of a hat, or sweat.) So one day, randomly, I decided to transition my hair. It stayed in a bun for a while, until one day, I decided to braid it up after a wash. I let it out the next morning and picked it out, and came up with this:

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I threw a headband in it, and went to work. I didn’t know how to feel, honestly. I felt like the world was staring at me.

But natural hair will do that. Folks don’t know how to handle an afro, whether it’s out and free or in a puff. And I didn’t know how to handle the questions that resulted from my afro.

“Can I touch it?” What the hell am I, a puppy? For the most part I don’t mind, but the question is still odd to me. And please, for the love of fluffy kittens, ASK first. Everybody isn’t me.

“Is it real?” Yep. I wouldn’t know the first thing about picking out a good wig/weave.

“How long have you been transitioning?” At the point above, it had been maybe a few months, maybe 4.

“What do you think of it?” This I had a hard time answering, but I gave an honest answer. Self conscious. I was (and am) a big woman with big hair. You can’t be invisible like that. It’s a bold look, and you have to be prepared to rock it and be seen.

Slowly, I became more and more comfortable with my ‘fro, wearing it in a pouf some days:

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And pulling into a front bouffant other days:

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Because my hair isn’t even (back is longer than the front, left side longer than right), I rarely wear it completely out without a headband (it helps conceal the unevenness.) But hey, it’s all about pushing my boundaries, right? Who knows, maybe I’ll have a free fro come tomorrow morning. Anything’s possible.

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