Fatshion Friday: The Birthday Outfit!

Last Wednesday, I celebrated my 29th birthday. Since the weather was less than ideal that day (yay pouring rain!), I postponed my dinner to this week so we wouldn’t need a rowboat to get around.

I’m glad I did.

We went to City Island for dinner, to a really nice hibachi restaurant where I ate all of the seafood and gyoza I could hold.

Mmm. 🙂

And of course, I did it quite fashionably.

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I went with the Floral Print Scuba Dress from Eloquii. Now, I normally don’t do bodycon dresses, as I am still self conscious about my belly. But I decided to let that go. At the end of the day, my belly is there no matter what, so I’m gonna wear what makes me happy! 🙂 It’s very comfortable, and if you decide to do a shaper (I have a Spanx on here), you aren’t able to see it through the dress.

My shoes are from JustFab. They’re called Kacie, and can we talk about how sexy this shoe is? Cause, really. 4 1/2 inches, and they only started to get uncomfortable for me towards the end of the evening (I have a bad ankle, and me and spiked heels often don’t play nice…but I had to have this pair!)

And I still ended up carrying the Darby Smart clutch I made, because it’s so cute. It worked with the outfit after all! The cuff was overkill, though, so that will have to be for the next outfit.

My coat is from Old Navy. I didn’t really need it, as it wasn’t too cold, but it was a bit breezy so I’m glad I had it.

My hair is in a high puff with a few curls on the side…simple and quick, because I kept going round and round on what to do with it. Fun fact: if you manage to break your elastic, an old knee high stocking does the trick as well. My makeup is neutral since everything else was so colorful. I used the Stila Dare to Bare palette here, and Kitten lip glaze.

And there you have it! Still continuing to step outside this box of mine and fully enjoy the world of style out there.

Have a lovely weekend, y’all!

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Updates! And a Public Service Announcement

Hello my lovelies!

So, I didn’t intend on taking a break from writing while taking a break from the day job, but perhaps I needed to unplug just a little bit. I wanted to give y’all a quick update on the birthday things while I wait for my sunscreen to sink in.

PSA: please make sure if you’re using a chemical sunscreen (ahem, that stuff on the back of the bottle you can’t pronounce too well), that you give yourself 15-30 minutes for it to sink in so that it can do its thing. If it’s a mineral sunscreen (titanium dioxide or zinc oxide are the most common) as soon as it’s dry you can head out. Reapply every two hours if you’re sunbathing, swimming, etc. I don’t want you sunburned now that we actually have some sun!

Now that’s out the way: my birthday week’s been awesome! The day of was rained out but I was armed with wine and Netflix, Thursday I slept all day long (GLORIOUS!), and Friday I had dinner with a friend.

No, not THE dinner. It’s coming, though!

Today is gonna be spent buying new makeup brushes and crafting supplies. And I’ll be back in full swing Monday–I got some new subscription boxes and goodies I can’t wait to share with y’all.

And here: have a pic of me with day off makeup on (it’s rare, but it does happen!)

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It’s neutral because I had on blue and purple (and I was going lipstick shopping.)

Enjoy the rest of y’alls weekend, and I will see you Monday! 🙂

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Nourishing My Crowning Glory

I often get asked about what I put in my hair.

The answer to that question is as varied as this New York weather.

Seriously. Can you pick a season, Mother Nature? Please?

Ahem. Sorry.

Anyway.

Generally, what I put in my hair depends on the season and what style it happens to be in. Most of the time, I use Carol’s Daughter products (CD). I love the Black Vanilla line for my eternally thirsty hair, and the Rosemary Mint Shampoo (no link; it’s going away. 😦 )for my eternally flaky scalp.

Even though CD is available in Target these days, it’s still sometimes out of my way to go and pick it up. So, I like to mix it up and try other products when I need something new.

Ok, maybe it’s just because I love how many products are coming out for natural hair, and I want to try all of the things. Eh, tomato, tomahto.

A few faves:

Nene’s Secret: I found this randomly in a beauty supply store and fell in love with the CC (that’s Curly and Cute) Curl Creme. My hair was so soft and hydrated. Before I could try the whole line, it disappeared from the store. (Of course it did. -_-) I’ll probably have to order it online.

Optimum Care Amla Oil: I tried this after a coworker recommended it to me. I do love the hydration, but it doesn’t give me as much definition as Nene’s Secret does. Still, it smells lovely, and is normally available in your local drugstore.

As I Am: I am in LOVE with their DoubleButter Cream. I found this in the Walgreens when I went to get shampoo, and decided to give it a try. If you have desert dry hair, you are going to LOVE this.

Creme of Nature Argan Oil Line: So, this was the shampoo I purchased on the aforementioned Walgreens run. I tend to be wary of argan oil products, because of how unscented (as in, raw, 100% natural) argan oil smells. It smells like…feet. Yeah. I know. If you’re using argan oil that smells delicious, it ain’t 100% natural. Just an FYI. Now this has enough fragrance in it to keep me from thinking “ew” but not so much the benefits of the oil are drowned out. I have the Moisture and Shine Shampoo and picked up a packet of the Intensive Treatment (amazing!)

As far as care? I don’t wash my hair more than twice a week in the summer and once every two weeks in the winter.  I have dry hair and flaky scalp, and washing it all the time would make it worse. I use sulfate free shampoos when possible (not doing so makes my hair that much drier.) I always deep condition my hair, and do a leave in conditioner afterwards to keep it strong.

I braid or twist my hair up before bed (usually just 5-6 big braids) and tie up with a satin scarf.

I always use a leave in conditioning spray (try the Black Vanilla one from CD; for my DIY mavens, put leave in conditioner and water in an old spray bottle and shake. Works just as well.) before I comb it out. I put a moisturizing cream on the ends, and oil at the scalp. Rub through and pick it out. It seems like a lot, but it helps with detangling so you don’t lose as much hair when you comb.

All of this work leads me to some good hair days. Look! I have my hair completely out!

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I’m still trying to push my limits. I’m considering wearing my hair free for my birthday dinner next week. What do y’all think? I’m taking style suggestions and product recommendations!

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My Hair: A History

I have a love/hate relationship with my hair. I’ve always had a lot of it, and never could really be bothered with it the majority of the time. Mostly it was because I had no clue what in the world to do with it.

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This is me as a peanut. About 4, I think.

My mother and grandmother always kept it in braids and bows (twin beads and barrettes, anyone?)

When I got older, around 9-10 maybe, I decided I wanted to get a relaxer. I was tired of my mother burning my head with the hot comb to straighten it. After a warning of it would burn my scalp the first time, I then had it relaxed. It didn’t slow down on me being tenderheaded, but it helped the tangles a bit.

I kept up the relaxers for years after. My hair went from long, to short, to very long when I still lived in Texas (almost the center of my back), to this:

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It’s maybe an inch past my shoulders here.

I rarely wore it down, because it was HOT. Oh, good grief. Like the hand of Hades was sitting on my neck and wouldn’t move! I kept it up in a bun or ponytail most of the time, only wearing it down when I got it done (see pic above) or on special occasions. And I could guarantee I had a ponytail holder to yank it up as soon as the special occasion was over with. Typically, you’d see me like this:

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Yep. Typical. It’s in a bun here.

I got tired of never being able to wear it down (it did not hold a curl at all, and frizzed at the drop of a hat, or sweat.) So one day, randomly, I decided to transition my hair. It stayed in a bun for a while, until one day, I decided to braid it up after a wash. I let it out the next morning and picked it out, and came up with this:

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I threw a headband in it, and went to work. I didn’t know how to feel, honestly. I felt like the world was staring at me.

But natural hair will do that. Folks don’t know how to handle an afro, whether it’s out and free or in a puff. And I didn’t know how to handle the questions that resulted from my afro.

“Can I touch it?” What the hell am I, a puppy? For the most part I don’t mind, but the question is still odd to me. And please, for the love of fluffy kittens, ASK first. Everybody isn’t me.

“Is it real?” Yep. I wouldn’t know the first thing about picking out a good wig/weave.

“How long have you been transitioning?” At the point above, it had been maybe a few months, maybe 4.

“What do you think of it?” This I had a hard time answering, but I gave an honest answer. Self conscious. I was (and am) a big woman with big hair. You can’t be invisible like that. It’s a bold look, and you have to be prepared to rock it and be seen.

Slowly, I became more and more comfortable with my ‘fro, wearing it in a pouf some days:

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And pulling into a front bouffant other days:

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Because my hair isn’t even (back is longer than the front, left side longer than right), I rarely wear it completely out without a headband (it helps conceal the unevenness.) But hey, it’s all about pushing my boundaries, right? Who knows, maybe I’ll have a free fro come tomorrow morning. Anything’s possible.

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