Up and Running!

Hey lovelies!

I was off last week with some technical difficulties, and they seem to have all been sorted out (fingers crossed this post makes it up!)

So now that my internet actually works, I can get back to editing all of the pics I took from New York Fashion Week plus (and I have outfit pics for you!) Look for those posts to start Wednesday. Until then, have a picture of me all curly at the SmartGlamour fashion show:

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See y’all Wednesday! πŸ™‚

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Sparkly Treats

In less than a week, I will be 30.

30.

Whoa.

I love to splurge on myself, but such a special day deserves an extra special treat. I couldn’t figure out what I’d gift myself that would be extravagant. Do I get my first pair of designer shoes? A fancy bag?

And then the lovely folks at Anjolee.com contacted me to see if I’d be interested in learning about their jewelry and designing my own piece.

Ding, ding!

So, over at Anjolee, you can custom design anything they have to your heart’s desire. Lovely ring, but you want a topaz and not a sapphire? Done! You need that necklace to be platinum instead of white gold? No problem! Love the look of that diamond tennis bracelet, but you need another inch or two? Piece of cake!

Speaking of which, I totally decided to get myself a bracelet. I can also tell you it was a hard decision, what with all of the possibilities! I picked out something with blue topaz, because blue is my favorite color. Look at the packaging:

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And how lovely my piece is:

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And the cool part about it is that since you can customize everything down to the length, if you happen to have bigger arms like me, you can add inches on if you needed. Standard length is 7 inches, and I added an inch for a perfect fit (you can even do half inches if you need to.) I used a measuring tape (dressmaker’s, not the retractable) to measure what I would need.

I am so happy with the results, and the quality is superb.

If you’re looking for a gift for a loved one or a gift for yourself (I’m all for personal treats), give Anjolee a try. You won’t regret it!

Disclaimer: This post is sponsored by Anjolee. All opinions are my own.

 

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Nail Adventures: Four Leaf Clovers

So, yesterday was a rare day for me at work: I didn’t have to wear all black! Because St. Patrick’s Day.

Naturally that meant I went full throttle with all of the green I could muster. I did a green sweater dress, did my eyes up in green and blue, and adorned my nails in all of the green and gold I had in my arsenal.

I’m still working on getting the Weather Deities to do right and bring the warm, and yesterday they gave me an almost 60 degree day!

Which turned to 36 degrees by the time I got off work.

Sigh.

Anyway, my nails were pretty popular at work because green and glitter and a four leaf clover!

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I couldn’t quite get the water decal where I wanted it (ended up redoing that finger twice), but I love it! I have on…quite a few colors here, actually. The green is a combo of two greens. I did a flat green base from Sally Hansen called Kelp Out, then layered that with a shimmery green from OPI’s Hawaii collection called My Gecko Does Tricks. It goes on pretty sheer, and it took about three coats to make it opaque when I swatched it. So, I figured a green base would help give it the same opacity without all the layers. The gold is Orly’s Luxe layered with OPI’s I Reached My Gold. I got the water decals from Julep, and I always have studs around. These are from the dollar store. πŸ˜€

Of course, it took me about an hour at work to knock off three studs, but it was super pretty while it lasted.

I’m already looking forward to the tropical manicure I’m planning for vacation! There will be pineapples.

Happy Wednesday, folks! πŸ˜€

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From the Magazines…

…comes the look I will be doing for my next YouTube tutorial. I have been playing around with this Dior look since I saw it in my magazine, and I thought: this is simple to do. So, not only will I be filming this, I will be showing you a variation of the look as well!

Here’s the inspiration:

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Simple, yet makes a statement. I am also working on a new Nail Adventure for you. I will have matte nails.

Yes, you read that right. πŸ™‚

See you Friday!

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A Letter to Linda Kelsey

Dear Linda Kelsey,

I read the article you wrote for theΒ Daily Mail.Β You raised several questions within it, and as a young, fat, and unashamed woman, I’d like to help you gain some clarity.

I knew at a young age I was fat.

Around that same age I learned that fat was bad, and I should beat it as best I could.

I spent a lot of time hating my belly. Hating my thighs. Hating my arms. I wasn’t completely happy with myself because no one else (in my mind) seemed to be. I still dressed well, despite starting my teen years as a glam tomboy. Somehow, I felt like an impostor, though.

I never thought I would be worthy of anyone’s love but my parents, and yet deep down I felt they were ashamed of me because I was fat. So I poured my time and efforts into school, so they could have something to brag about. I was never going to be a beauty queen. I had glasses and crooked teeth, and my size didn’t help matters any. I did my best to blend in physically, at least as much as I could, so that I wouldn’t draw attention to myself.

I was known as the smart kid. For years, I felt that was all I had.

So, I did crash diets; tried to suppress my appetite. I figured if I hated my fat as much as everyone else did, it would go away.

Didn’t work. But I decided to give it one more try.

Shortly after graduating from high school, I went on the most successful diet. Two plates of food a day. Diet bread (*retch*). Daily walks.

By the time I made it to university, I’d shed about 20lbs. Lost a dress size.

And I anxiously waited for everything else to change. I’m smaller, right?Β I’m more accepted, now, right? I was ready to soak up those compliments like a thirsty plant soaks up water after a rainstorm.

Nope. Folks told me two things: 1. I’d gain it back because “Freshman 15” and 2. “When are you gonna lose the rest?”

*record scratch*

So…I did what I was expected to do as a fat girl: lose weight. I even went along with the appropriate self loathing as I did so: knowing how many calories I was consuming, proudly turning down dessert, remembering to take only one plate of food at dinner even though I was extra hungry.

And that still wasn’t enough.

Revelation time: it was NEVER going to BE ENOUGH. No matter what I did.

Fast forward to now: I gained back that 20lbs. Probably more; I can’t be bothered to weigh myself. Doctor says I’m healthy, and even if I wasn’t, it still gives you no room to judge who I am. You don’t know me. You know what you see. You see fat and unhealthy. You also assume I’m blind and can’t see that I’m fat. You are incorrect. I have a mirror, thanks. I love looking at myself and seeing all of my fabulosity.

I wear what I want. Sometimes it’s what society thinks I should wear as a fat woman: something loose and comfy. Sometimes it’s a crop top and skirt–questionable to some. Most humans take fashion risks too.

I eat what I enjoy. It’s mostly healthy, but sometimes it isn’t. Like most humans.

I live my life. I always have that paranoia that folks are judging me negatively when they see me, even if they’re just thinking I have awesome hair or something. Β Yet and still, I can’t live according to what other people want. This is MY life, and I do what I please.

“Why are today’s young women so unashamed of being fat?”

This young woman is unashamed of being fat because self loathing never made me skinny. Shame never made me skinny. Hating my fat didn’t make it disappear. It’s here, and whether folks like it or not, it has made me into the strong person I am. I have found courage that I never thought I’d have in life. Self esteem where there wasn’t any.

Call me fat. It won’t make me skinny.

I’ll just smile and say thank you. It’s an adjective. Not an insult.

Have a wonderful day, and thanks for reading,

Char, the Evolving FATshionista

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Thank You

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Here in the US, it’s Memorial Day (Hi to all my international readers!), a day of reflection for those who perished fighting battles for our country. I just want to extend a thank you to the Armed Forces for their service, and to wish peace and healing for those who lost loved ones.

For everyone going out to celebrate: have fun and be safe!

Regular posts resume tomorrow.

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Nail Polish Tuesday: Ciate Flower Manicure Set

Hey folks! I am back on the manicure horse with a new nail look this week.

Nails of Literature isn’t gone, by the way. It just won’t be every week. πŸ™‚

So, while I was out shopping in Sephora, I came across this Ciate kit. Now, I should have been wary of this kit, because the first one I tried led to such a fail (and it was the first nail look I shared on my Tumblr!)

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Good grief. Those were supposed to be polka dots. Yes, yes. That was the goal. Don’t rub it in! πŸ™‚

But because I don’t know how to leave well enough alone the FIRST time it goes south, I decided to give it another go. This kit is called Flower Manicure, and it seemed simple enough. Nail polish, flowers, topcoat. File to fit. Ok. I can do this…right?

This comes in two colors, a blue base with red and dark blue flowers, or a pink base with blue and yellow flowers. The pink, blue, and yellow combo is one of my favorites to do with clothes, so I picked that kit. You get a small paint pot, large top coat, two sets of flowers in different colors, a file, and tweezers. Also an instruction book. Good.

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As I did the first time, I read the directions. Two coats of color, let dry. Put top coat, add flower(s) to nail, let dry (work one nail at a time, duly noted). File flowers off of the edges of the nail (if you do the overlapping look), add more top coat. Yeah, I can totally do this…I think. The pink shade, by the way, is called Candy Floss. The rhinestones didn’t come in the kit. I just always need a little sparkle in my life.

So, how did I do?

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Success! I would probably recommend doing this look on longer nails, so you can get better overlap, but I love it. I did the yellow and white flowers on eight nails, and I did blue flowers on both ring fingers. And because I love shiny things, I put a couple of green rhinestones on there too.

This actually was pretty easy. Work with one nail at a time, because the quick dry topcoat is no joke. It dries pretty quickly, and you will find yourself having to reapply coats if you don’t move with a purpose.

I am so glad I didn’t have to do another failed manicure post this week. πŸ™‚

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Nourishing My Crowning Glory

I often get asked about what I put in my hair.

The answer to that question is as varied as this New York weather.

Seriously. Can you pick a season, Mother Nature? Please?

Ahem. Sorry.

Anyway.

Generally, what I put in my hair depends on the season and what style it happens to be in. Most of the time, I use Carol’s Daughter productsΒ (CD). I love the Black Vanilla line for my eternally thirsty hair, and the Rosemary Mint Shampoo (no link; it’s going away. 😦 )for my eternally flaky scalp.

Even though CD is available in Target these days, it’s still sometimes out of my way to go and pick it up. So, I like to mix it up and try other products when I need something new.

Ok, maybe it’s just because I love how many products are coming out for natural hair, and I want to try all of the things. Eh, tomato, tomahto.

A few faves:

Nene’s Secret: I found this randomly in a beauty supply store and fell in love with the CC (that’s Curly and Cute) Curl Creme. My hair was so soft and hydrated. Before I could try the whole line, it disappeared from the store. (Of course it did. -_-) I’ll probably have to order it online.

Optimum Care Amla Oil: I tried this after a coworker recommended it to me. I do love the hydration, but it doesn’t give me as much definition as Nene’s Secret does. Still, it smells lovely, and is normally available in your local drugstore.

As I Am: I am in LOVE with their DoubleButter Cream. I found this in the Walgreens when I went to get shampoo, and decided to give it a try. If you have desert dry hair, you are going to LOVE this.

Creme of Nature Argan Oil Line: So, this was the shampoo I purchased on the aforementioned Walgreens run. I tend to be wary of argan oil products, because of how unscented (as in, raw, 100% natural) argan oil smells. It smells like…feet. Yeah. I know. If you’re using argan oil that smells delicious, it ain’t 100% natural. Just an FYI. Now this has enough fragrance in it to keep me from thinking “ew” but not so much the benefits of the oil are drowned out. I have the Moisture and Shine Shampoo and picked up a packet of the Intensive Treatment (amazing!)

As far as care? I don’t wash my hair more than twice a week in the summer and once every two weeks in the winter. Β I have dry hair and flaky scalp, and washing it all the time would make it worse. I use sulfate free shampoos when possible (not doing so makes my hair that much drier.)Β I always deep condition my hair, and do a leave in conditioner afterwards to keep it strong.

I braid or twist my hair up before bed (usually just 5-6 big braids) and tie up with a satin scarf.

I always use a leave in conditioning spray (try the Black Vanilla one from CD; for my DIY mavens, put leave in conditioner and water in an old spray bottle and shake. Works just as well.) before I comb it out. I put a moisturizing cream on the ends, and oil at the scalp. Rub through and pick it out. It seems like a lot, but it helps with detangling so you don’t lose as much hair when you comb.

All of this work leads me to some good hair days. Look! I have my hair completely out!

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I’m still trying to push my limits. I’m considering wearing my hair free for my birthday dinner next week. What do y’all think? I’m taking style suggestions and product recommendations!

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