Fatshion Friday: Bathing Beauties

As you read this, I’m still throwing things in a bag for vacation.

Why yes, I told y’all I was prepping for this two weeks ago, and I’m still not done. Please don’t judge me!

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Anyway.

In celebration of me making the move to a warmer climate for a few days, I thought I’d put together a lookbook of some of the best styles I’ve seen so far. I was never really a bathing suit girl; deciding for the most part to stick with a tank and shorts. Coupled with the fact that I can’t swim, I figured there was no real need for a suit.

Well, lo these many years later, and I still can’t swim, but I love the beach, swimming pool (the shallow end), and hot tubs. I also have discovered how much I love being as close to naked as I can get in public, so bathing suits are a must. I shared a while ago one of the suits I’m bringing with me on my trip, and now I’m going to show you some other options.

Let’s get to it!

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From Swimsuits For All.

I prefer suits that are not basic black. In fact, if I can find it in as many loud colors as possible, it’s probably going to go home with me. I also prefer a top with some support, particularly because my boobs aren’t that big. If they aren’t big, they’re at least gonna sit up high–so this suit fits the bill! Bonus: it comes as a set (!!!!) and you can order different sizes for the top and bottom for the perfect fit. I actually have the one piece version of this, but sadly, it’s sold out (can’t even find it online anymore!)

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From Forever 21.

Like your suit strapless? This will be spectacular for you! I also love the peplum because this helps to add a little more camouflage to the belly if that’s your preference.

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From Swimsuits For All.

This colorful number has all of the straps and all of the colors. There’s a two piece version of this suit, which you can find here. I can’t decide which style I want, but this pattern is next on the list!

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From Forever 21. Top and Bottom sold separately.

Doesn’t this look like some fancy lingerie? That’s what initially drew me to this set. It’s beautiful and strappy, and even though you have to purchase each piece separately it isn’t ridiculously priced.

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From Monif C.

Hello, gorgeous! This would be my pool party suit–do you see how fierce she looks with those heels? OMG. I’d be working the party and you couldn’t tell me a thing! And I’d be sipping my drink while I sashayed, honey.

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From Ashley Stewart.

And what’s a post on bathing suits without something pretty to cover them up? I know, your bathing suit is fierce, but you may not want to wear it out to brunch. This pretty number keeps you pretty and covered till it’s time to strip back down and lay on the sand.

And there you have it! Some of the suits I’m loving for the season. Here’s a question for y’all: bikini or one piece? Tweet me @fashion_amateur with your answers!

Happy Weekend!

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Fatshion Friday: Vacation Prep (And Bonus Story Time!)

I go on vacation in two weeks, and I am so excited! So excited that I am already piecing together outfits.

I’m not even going to be gone for long, but since I’m going somewhere warm (Myrtle Beach) I’m trying to fit in all of the skin baring outfits I can on this trip.

At least, until NYC can make up it’s mind to be one temperature.

Sigh.

Anyway.

I plan for this trip to be full of maxi dresses, sandals, and maybe only one or two new pieces (if I keep telling myself this, maybe I’ll stick to it!)

(No I won’t.)

Like, Eloquii dropped these shorts and I want them with this top:

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And I want to wear this dress from ASOS with some cute sneakers and a denim jacket:

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And since I’ll be at the beach, I already scooped this beautiful bikini from GabiFresh’s Swimsuits For All collection:

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Bonus for this: you can get two different sizes for top and bottom. So if you’re more bottom heavy (that’s me), you can go up a size there and get a different sized top. It’s super comfy, by the way. This will be the first time I’ve ever done a bikini, so I’m petrified. But I’m gonna rock it anyway!

And since I’m doing a bathing suit, I’ll be making an appointment for a bikini wax soon. I wonder how it will go this time…every time I go it’s a new experience.

Story Time!

So, the first time I went to get a wax, it was included as part of a massage package at a spa. What I should have done was get the massage AFTER the wax, but I had no idea what I was in for.

Once the massage therapist worked all the kinks out of my shoulders and back, I went to get my wax. The room was clean and smelled like lavender. Kind of like a friendlier OB/GYN office.

Here’s the thing: if you’re gonna get a wax, please be uninhibited. Because your waxer is going to get to know you really well. There’s no modesty; you’re about to spread for them. Now, not for nothing, my waxer was super sweet, and she never made me feel uncomfortable.

Until the actual waxing part. Listen. I’m not about to sugar coat this for y’all. This shit hurts. I don’t care the menu tells you about “no pain wax” they’re lying to you. There are waxes that don’t hurt as much (go for the chocolate wax for this), but you’re gonna feel it. What you want to do is actually speak to your waxer. They’re going to make convo, and it isn’t for the purposes of being polite (well, not the sole reason.) They’re distracting you. So speak. Cause once that first strip came off I think I cursed the earth for being round and the sky for being blue my nethers hurt so much.

Oh, and they’re gonna show you the hair they yanked off you. In case you were wondering.

So, she’s waxing and talking to me, telling me I had more hair in certain places than others, and then the line of the century came out her mouth.

“Ok, I need for you to put your leg on the wall.”

Put my leg on the wall?!

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I had contacts on in this scenario, though.

Please keep in mind this was my FIRST wax, and I wasn’t thinking that with my belly she may need some help getting to places. All I could think was the only time I hear that line it ain’t because I’m getting waxed. Then I think, well shit. Can I get a drink and some dinner first? We’re moving too fast!

But I complied, and I was nice and smooth after. Oddly enough, I end up having to contort in some shape or form every time I get a wax, too. By the way, they rub you with soothing oil after so you don’t feel so raw.

Hope you got a good laugh from today’s story! Happy weekend, y’all! ๐Ÿ˜€

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Stepping Out In Style

Ok, so you got all of your fancy underthings, right? Let’s talk about finding some pretty things to wear over them, shall we?

Now, if your Valentine’s Day has you doing, ahem, indoor activities, this post may not be for you. But for those of you looking to do brunch or dinner, keep reading for some pretty ideas!

Let’s get to it!

Are you going someplace fancy? I have the perfect dresses for you, and neither one of them are red! I know, red is traditional for VDay, but why not step out the box with another color? Like navy:

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From ASOS.

I can’t lie: I love this dress for it’s complex simplicity. There’s all these pretty sparkly stones on there, so you don’t need a necklace. If you do earrings, you can either pick a simple silver or gold hoop or get studs to match the stones on the dress. Add a cute shoe and you’re done! Fancy dressing doesn’t get easier than this.

For the more daring:

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From Monif C.

There is something about the swirl of colors in this dress that just makes me happy. With all of the cold, snowy weather we’ve had in these parts (with more to come,) I’m in the need of something that reminds me of springtime. This does it, and your curves are flawless. Win!

Maybe you’re doing brunch with friends, with your love, or by yourself. What’s the easiest thing in the world to dress up or down? Jeans! I’m a huge fan of these:

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From Old Navy.

A word on fit: get your size. I tend to size up to make sure my bum fits, and didn’t need to here. I need a belt to keep them in place (I prefer a looser feel), but if you want it properly form fitting: get your size. They’re super comfy, too.

So: basic jean. Check. Now, you need a top. Well, depending on how dressy you want to be, you’ve got options!

Dressy date? Try this:

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From Ashley Stewart.

I love this because flowy, but see how the accessories take it over the top? A cute bootie would pull this whole look right together.

Friend date? How about this top:

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From Lane Bryant.

This is an adorable, going out to the movies then dinner with the crew sweatshirt. Just fancy enough to go out in, but not too overdone.

Solo date? I adore this one:

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From Feminine Funk.

You can take yourself out to brunch and museum hop in this (maybe you’ll strike up a convo with someone with that phrase on there!) Or, you could sit on your sofa and enjoy your Netflix queue (and I’d ditch the jeans in favor of underpants in that case, but that’s just me.) Nothing like something comfy and cheeky in your rotation!

Hope you were able to get some cute outfit ideas from this! Also, keep in mind there’s nothing wrong with taking yourself out on a date in a fancy dress and heels. You have great style, show it off!

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Pretty Flirty Sexy Things

One of my favorite things in the world is to shop for new underthings and lingerie. I love the feel and the sexiness.

Aww, yeah. ๐Ÿ˜€

I really never need a reason to pick up something new, but I love it when Valentine’s rolls around because there is just so much extraย to find.

Now, it’s way too cold in my neck of the woods for most of what I’m about to show you, but that won’t stop me from ordering at least a couple of things, nor should it stop you!

Let’s get to it!

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Both pieces are from Hips and Curves.

A shirt+panty combo is one of the most classic pairings in nighttime wear. It doesn’t take much to up that sexiness quotient by having the panties lacy and the shirt a button down. You can throw in a pretty bra like in the picture, or go without to up the allure.

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Set is from Lane Bryant (have to purchase separately.)

I am a sucker for a bra+panty combo, especially when it coordinates like this. If you happen to be into doing cute dress up moments for your significant other, toss this on with a pair of black pumps and shake it all over the room (and them!) Solo? I’d be grabbing my Nikon and tripod and having a photo shoot. Yes, seriously. I love how I look in underwear.

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From Torrid. It’s selling out fast!

Robes may be my second favorite thing in the world. I’d pair this one with the Lane Bryant set above and sit on my sofa and drink coffee. Great way to make yourself feel extra fancy in the morning and extra sexy at night.

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From Torrid. Also selling fast!

So, most people look at this and think special occasion. I look at this and think tonight’s pajamas. Now, true confession: most of the time I don’t sleep in anything because I’m always hot. But it’s pretty cold up here in NY, so as to not turn into a Popsicle, I have to put onย something, right? This works. Oh, and how cute is the flower lace detail?

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From Hips and Curves. So seductive!

I saved my favorite look for last. Satin shorts, corset, lacy bra, thigh highs? Now, I’d do this outfit for a partner, or if I were going to a pajama party (layered with the robe I mentioned earlier.) Lingerie isn’t normally meant to be shown off, but I’d be wanting to show this to any and everybody, it’s so fierce! This also warrants solo Nikon photo shoots. Cause, I mean, look at it.

And there you have it! Some of my favorite flirty things for Valentine’s Day and beyond. Keep in mind it’s never a bad idea to treat yourself to something beautiful; you deserve to look and feel wonderful every day!

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Fatshion Friday: New Year, New Perspective

Hello my lovelies! I hope y’all had a safe and happy new year. ๐Ÿ™‚

Wednesday, I told y’all about my outfit I’d originally planned for New Year’s Eve.

Sadly, I still haven’t got it (no one was able to sign for it, so it’ll be delivered today, hopefully) but I’d gotten a surprise shipment from Eloquii on Tuesday.

I’d only ordered it the previous Friday, and didn’t think I’d get it in time. I was so happy I did, because I’d managed to ransack my room trying to figure out what to put on and still wasn’t 100% happy with what I’d put together.

But before I get into my fabulous outfit, I want to have a moment to discuss my history with New Years.

I don’t really have one. This was the first year since I moved to the Big Apple that I’d actually gone out to celebrate. Logistics of trying to navigate NYC on NYE aside (OMG Y’ALL. SUCH A PAIN) there’s always something to get into, and I’d never taken the time to experience it.

Most of it had to do with me being socially awkward and introverted. I’ve made some strides over the last year to get out and do things, even if it’s by myself. That hasn’t always been me though. I actually found the club my friends and I attended and coordinated getting folks to come out. Also not something I normally do.

But it was so worth it.

NYE is fraught with anxiety for most people, particularly if you’re single. It’s seen as a night to maybe make a new friend and get a kiss at midnight. I’ve still not had that first year’s kiss experience, but my NYE wasn’t lacking at all. That wasn’t what I was aiming for. I wanted to celebrate surrounded by my friends, and ring in the new year with some of my favorite people in the world.

I got to do that. And for that, I am happy and grateful. ๐Ÿ˜€

I also looked fabulous.

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Please don’t mind the blurry club pics. This was a pause in the middle of a happy dance!

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And here’s me and my friend C, all dolled up for the night.

Now, let’s talk outfit details. Yep. That’s my belly. All of it. Stretch marks and all.

And I was so surprised at how many compliments I received. Even though I love to push my personal comfort boundaries, I still get anxiety about wearing clothes that society says fat girls aren’t supposed to wear. Crop top? What? Are people gonna laugh at me?

Maybe they did. I couldn’t hear them over how others told me they loved what I had on. So, this is the African Violet set from Eloquii, and I layered it with their white Longline Vest ย because a) cold, and b) pockets (the skirt has pockets too). I wore a simple pair of sparkly flats (that cut my toe ๐Ÿ˜ฆ ) but were relatively comfortable, and I danced the night away with my friends.

Then we had breakfast, and we all went home with smiles on our faces.

If NYE was an indicator of how my 2015 is going to go, then I’m here for all of it. Here’s to new experiences and fabulous fashion in the new year!

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A Tale Of Three Dresses

It’s New Year’s Eve! Tonight, I’m going out with my friends to celebrate in a gorgeous outfit it took me some time to find.

Story time!

I really had not planned on buying something new for New Year’s, because until maybe two weeks ago I had no definitive plans. My best friend suggested a club, and I found a really good deal on tickets for us to go and celebrate.

$40 for open bar til 1, free snacks, champagne toast, AND ย free breakfast? Win!

So last week, I decided to order a new dress for the new year. I figured I’d just pay for the rush shipping so it would be here in time. And then I had a problem. Which dress?

Here were the top three:

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From Eloquii.

You’ll remember this dress from my Holiday Look Book. So pretty, and simple.

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From ASOS.

Now, I have to wear black every day at work, so I don’t like to wear it when I go out. But I love the length of this dress because I love my legs. ๐Ÿ™‚

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From ASOS.

This was the final contender, and I love it because it had elements from the previous two: sparkle and short. And I don’t own any white dresses, so of course, this look won! Look at the detail around the collar:

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I like this because now I don’t need a necklace and I can add all of the bangles and rings I want to dress it up.

So, after all of that, I finally order, pay for the rush shipping, and pray it makes it here on time. When I get my order confirmation, I hit the tracking button.

It’s going to make it here today. Problem is, I’m working late shift and won’t be here to get it. And I won’t have time to come home and change, so I’m changing at work.

*sad trombone*

Now I need a plan B. But I always have a plan B, and I’m gonna look great tonight despite not having my original dress I ordered.

You’ll see that look Friday! ๐Ÿ™‚

Have a safe and happy New Year!

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Full Figured Fashion Week: Finale and New Beginnings

So, in yesterday’s post, I mentioned that I made a new friend. Here’s how that happened.

I get to Friday’s fashion show, and due to there being a VIP section, I had to find a place in the back that would allow me to see and take pictures without getting in anyone’s way. I decided upon the back corner of the room, and figured I’d just crop out any errant heads that might be in the pictures.

I’m getting adjusted, trying to get comfortable, and I hear someone ask if anyone was using the seats closest to me. I say no, and D and her sister come to have a seat nearby.

We chat as I take a couple of test shots, and I can see not one blessed thing. D says quietly, “Hmm, maybe we should move so we can see better.” I’d been thinking the same thing, so I go, “Y’all thinking about moving?” She says: “You too?” “Yep, can’t see a thing from here.” So we all shift over a bit to a better viewpoint, and continue the convo.

D is going to start a blog soon, but she was at fashion week to get some information and inspiration. I gave my limited help, and encouragement. I have to say that for me the biggest thing was just to START. I made plans and talked about it, but took forever to get started. Once I got started, and found a way to get comfortable with a regular posting schedule (I like order, so this was a must), everything fell into place. Every comment and like makes me happy, and if at least one person reads my blog and takes one step that helps in their evolution, then I’ve done my job.

I had myself a viewing companion and a new (future!) blogger boo.

Exciting! ๐Ÿ™‚

Here we are at the second fashion show:

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I have on a dress ( that was way too short so I made it a shirt) from City Chic, and the skirt my mom sent me. I’d actually had a different outfit planned that night, and spent way too much of my day altering it and creating a sheer jacket to go with it. I realized I’d want on a full bodyshaper with it. It was entirely too hot for that, so I nixed it for this skirt combo instead. I still loved it.

And now: more fashion!

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This was the last Full Figured Fashion Week to be produced by DeVoe Signature Events. I am hoping so much that someone else steps in to take up the mantle. I attended last year and loved it, and attended this year and loved it more.

If I had the money, I’d take it over. It’s such a positive space that showcases the diversity of the plus size community.

And that’s it, folks! All of the coverage from Full Figured Fashion Week. Next week’s posting will be light, as I will be getting everything together for the YouTube premiere (I so cannot wait!)

Happy Weekend!

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